Teaching children about sex is the right thing to do. Many people (parents in particular) find the topic strange and embarrassing. Such individuals run away from reality because they are misinformed. The teachers who are refusing to teach sex education classes, as part of the Comprehensive Sexuality Education (CSE) curriculum – prescribed between Grade 4 and matric – is a case in point.
“As a parent of a 17-year-old, I feel uncomfortable knowing that he knows what mummy and daddy do behind closed doors,” a teacher was quoted as saying in the Saturday Star, dated November 16 (‘We Won’t Teach Sex Education’). For me, the educator is being ignorant to utter such trash, because I expect school teachers to be acquainted with the fact, that home is the first place for sex education.
Children who are not taught about sex from the early stages of life might experiment it themselves. And this could lead to negative consequences. These, among other things, could result in teenage pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV (AIDS).
It’s even worse when we have religious parliamentarians such as the African Christian Democratic Party (ACDP) leader, Kenneth Moshoe, who is opposed to sex education. As a Christian he should know better that it is the parents’ God-given responsibility, to teach children God’s perspective on every area of life – including sexuality.
The Word of God teaches us to use our bodies for the Lord’s Glory. “So, run away from sexual sin. It involves the body in a way that no other sin does. So, if you commit sexual sin, you are sinning against your own body. You should know that your body is a temple for the Holy Spirit, that you received from God and that lives in you,”
(Corinthians 6: 18-19) – Holy Bible, Easy-to-Read Version, 2004.
This scripture tells us that it’s a sin to not teach children about sex. In other words, when kids are not informed about issues surrounding sex, they could engage in it before marriage. And if this becomes the case it is against the will of God.
According to the CSE curriculum, it’s lessons are based on what “private parts” are and the “biological names for them” for Grade 4 learners. “Masturbation” for Grade 7s and “a seven-step, illustrated depiction of how a female condom should be placed”. I really don’t understand what the fuss is all about because these are facts of life that should be addressed to our kids.
However, such topics would, without doubt, prepare our children for the future, so as to make the right decisions. We can’t allow children to run amok in a permissive manner.
Sex expert Sharon Gordon is of the view that “many parents are not equipped with the knowledge to pass on to the next generation. And this is forcing youngsters to turn to the internet or their classmates. This is a perverted way to learn about sex”. What she says is indeed the truth, hence we have had a lot of stories about our children’s generation as lost souls. And this is due to a lack of communication with them.
It remains the duty of parents to teach their children, about the physical aspects of biology. Therefore, sex education is a subject that needs to be discussed in general. Gone are the days of fairytales such as “babies are made in heaven”.